KEEPING THE BRAT IN CHECK(spend time with your child)
WHINING, STOMPING FEET AND SLAMMING DOORS.IF YOUR KID IS CONTROLLING YOUR HOUSEHOLD, ITS TIME TO TAKE BACK PARENTAL CONTROL.
None of us wants ‘spoilt’ ill mannered kids. But the truth is that it is a lot easier to spoil your children than otherwise. Even before you know it, your cute newborn has turned into a brat and has learnt to manipulate you and avoid disciplinary action. Like it or not, you are to be blamed.
Here’s how you can get the behavior right
Prepare your kids and explain to them the working of the world. Tell them that they don’t always get what they want. Be a good role model. Provide for them emotionally and spiritually. Do not tempt them with material goodies in order to create a bond. Instead, spend sometime together.
Your job doesn’t involve giving children everything. Instead adopt a strategy to prepare them to succeed in in life. Teach them to value money and all the gifts they are bestowed with. Don’t train them to believe that they will get everything through pouting, crying, door slamming and guilt induction
Make sure your children aren’t defining their happiness and their status in the world as a function of what they wear or drive. Sit them down and have a conversation about what really defines their worth—their intelligence, creativity, caring, ethics, etc.
This way you might be able to counter- balance to the countless images they see telling them otherwise
Teach your kids the difference between intrinsic and extrinsic motivation.
Encourage them to be motivated intrinsically, If you are always rewarding your kids with material things, they will never learn how to motivate themselves with internal rewards like pride
Teach them that striving to own nice thing is fine if they understand how much hard work it takes to afford it. They shouldn’t base their-worth around what they buy